“I think I’ve figured out what is wrong with me. I don’t feel like a mom anymore”!
Those are the words I texted to my good friend, knowing full well she would respond with words of encouragement. She understands because she is in a similar season of life. The main difference between us is that her baby chick has one foot in and one foot out of the nest. I was gently reminded that I AM still a mom even though I didn’t feel like it on that mopey afternoon. (It wasn’t even a rainy day or a Monday)!
My friend was right. I am who I am regardless of my feelings. I am a mom and have been for almost 26 years. The good news is that my husband and I raised two confident, independent young adults. The bad news is that we raised two confident, independent young adults. They are not needy at all, yet, there I was pouting because I felt unneeded.
It reminded me of something our pastor often shares with us in his sermons: our salvation is not based on our feelings but on the sacrifice made by Jesus Christ. There are plenty of times I don’t feel like who I truly am . . . a child of God and a daughter of the King. Feelings are fickle and not always trustworthy. It is during these low times that I need to go back and look at what is true!
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
Philippians 4:8 (NIV)
Now, please pardon me. I’m going to go listen to my Carpenter’s CD while I look at baby albums!
Kim Wilbanks 
Well done and so true!
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Thanks Kelly for always reminding me of what’s true!
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Ahhh, I know how you feel. My two are grown and busy with life. Who am I now? Wasn’t being a mommy my life’s calling??? I now understand the whole process, but sometimes it’d be nice to feel that confidence in who you are. I was a mommy. I am a mommy! 🙂 Ahh, they always call when there’s a problem. God let us be mother, but also a “safety net” forever.
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Well said, Karen (I ordered your book! Can’t wait until it gets here)!
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Good job and I so love what you said! You raise them to “fly away” and when they do…you have mixed emotions and feelings. I have some friends who have grown chick’s who “peck” at them all the time so I always thank God I am blessed with independent children. Look forward to your next article.
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Thanks, Rachel!
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Sooooo true! You raise them to be strong and independent…but wow, it’s tough! I miss my boys so much I physically ache sometimes. Keep blogging Kim….I need you😀
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Thank you so much Christi! I know what you mean about physically aching! And sometimes crying too! I need you too friend!
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I so understand what you mean. I am struggling the difference between a house guest and mom while visiting my children.
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Oh, I can so relate, Kim! Grateful to be your neighbor at #livefreeThursday.
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